Peter & Shannyn – Wednesday, September 30
Deuteronomy 19:11 says “Teach them to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up.”
How do you get your kids to open up and talk to you? Some suggestions from Aha! Parenting.
1. Notice Conversation Openers
Notice the little conversation openers your kids offer & drop everything to respond. How you respond is crucial in building closeness.
2. Ask Questions That Require Real Answers
“What was the best thing about school today?,” “Do the kids at school ever talk about boyfriends and girlfriends?,” “Who did you sit with at lunch today?” or “How did the soccer game go at recess?” will get you a lot further than “How was school today?”
3. Don’t Jump In With Solutions and Advice
Your child needs a chance to vent, and he can’t hear advice until he does.
4. Make Sure You Connect with Each Child Every Single Day
Don’t expect your son or daughter to invite closeness or volunteer vulnerable emotions at each interaction, but if you set up enough regular opportunities to be together, it will happen.
5. Build “Special Time” with Each Child Into Your Routine
Kids often wait for these routine times with their parents to bring up something that’s bothering them.
6. If You Don’t Get the Response You Want, Step Back
Kids have a lot on their minds, not to mention hormones. Find ways to get in their face in a friendly, inoffensive way.
7. If You’re Greeted With Something Hurtful, Try Not To Respond With Anger
Show your vulnerability and hurt. Say “Ouch!” and turn away.
8. Stay Available
Most kids don’t keep an agenda and nothing makes them clam up faster than pressing them to talk. Kids talk when something is up for them.
9. Use Indirect Communication
Kids often open more in the car, on a walk, or in the dark — all times when eye contact is limited.
This is, of course, the single the most important part of helping kids open up. Reflect back what they’re saying so they know you understand, and then be quiet so they can talk more.
Peter & Shannyn – Tuesday, September 29
Today is National Coffee Day! A few national chains are offering deals.
Dunkin’ Donuts: Free medium cup of hot or iced dark roast coffee.
Krispy Kreme: Free small coffee & original glazed donut.
LaMar’s Donuts: Free 12-oz. cup of coffee & free mugs while supplies last.