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Peter & Shannyn – Wednesday, September 30

Deuteronomy 19:11 says “Teach them to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up.”

How do you get your kids to open up and talk to you?  Some suggestions from Aha! Parenting.

1. Notice Conversation Openers
Notice the little conversation openers your kids offer & drop everything to respond.  How you respond is crucial in building closeness.

2. Ask Questions That Require Real Answers
“What was the best thing about school today?,” “Do the kids at school ever talk about boyfriends and girlfriends?,” “Who did you sit with at lunch today?” or “How did the soccer game go at recess?” will get you a lot further than “How was school today?”

3. Don’t Jump In With Solutions and Advice
Your child needs a chance to vent, and he can’t hear advice until he does.

4. Make Sure You Connect with Each Child Every Single Day
Don’t expect your son or daughter to invite closeness or volunteer vulnerable emotions at each interaction, but if you set up enough regular opportunities to be together, it will happen.

5. Build “Special Time” with Each Child Into Your Routine
Kids often wait for these routine times with their parents to bring up something that’s bothering them.

6. If You Don’t Get the Response You Want, Step Back
Kids have a lot on their minds, not to mention hormones.  Find ways to get in their face in a friendly, inoffensive way.

7. If You’re Greeted With Something Hurtful, Try Not To Respond With Anger
Show your vulnerability and hurt. Say “Ouch!” and turn away.

8. Stay Available
Most kids don’t keep an agenda and nothing makes them clam up faster than pressing them to talk. Kids talk when something is up for them.

9. Use Indirect Communication
Kids often open more in the car, on a walk, or in the dark — all times when eye contact is limited.

This is, of course, the single the most important part of helping kids open up. Reflect back what they’re saying so they know you understand, and then be quiet so they can talk more.


Peter & Shannyn – Tuesday, September 29

Today is National Coffee Day!  A few national chains are offering deals.

Dunkin’ Donuts: Free medium cup of hot or iced dark roast coffee.

Krispy Kreme: Free small coffee & original glazed donut.

LaMar’s Donuts: Free 12-oz. cup of coffee & free mugs while supplies last.

Peter & Shannyn – Thursday, September 17

Today marks the 2nd anniversary of the passing of 15 year old Katie Wagner following her battle with cancer. Her life & faith touched hundreds of others. Her father, Steve, shared some reflections on her life this morning.

Todd Smith with Selah joins us to talk weight loss, his daughter’s baptism, & his father’s cancer battle.

Peter & Shannyn – Wednesday, September 16

Today is National Step Family Day!  Our Intentional Living ministry has 10 inTENtionals for Step Families.

inTENtionals for Step Families by Dr. Randy Carlson

  1. Expectations – Reality = Disappointment.  Set aside an hour this week to discuss each family member’s expectations for being in this family.
  1. A weekly Family Meeting may sound difficult and idealistic, but after you pull it off a few times, it will start to make a difference.
  1. Parent up – power down.  Step families are particularly vulnerable to power trips. A “cool-headed” parent can win the day by sticking to their parenting goals without anger.  Smile but confidently follow through without all the drama.
  1. Spending time together is the only way to get to know another person.  Be intentional by scheduling time individually with each member of the family.
  1. Mom and dad do best when they’re on the same page about almost everything.  Set aside 60 minutes sometime this week as a couple and make a few important decisions that both of you can agree on and get behind .. & write them down.
  1. Patience is your friend.  For 48 hours, don’t remind, correct, yell, blame or in other way be visibly impatient with your family.  Keep it to yourself and Instead, use words of encouragement, praise, support and love.
  1. Families that have something to look forward to are happier.  Planning a vacation is often more enjoyable than actually going on the vacation.
  1. The most powerful thing you can do for your family is to pray.  Pray for peace, protection and unity.  Start a prayer journal and report at the Family Meeting about answered prayer, and thank God together for His faithfulness.
  1. Make room for hurt.  Most step families are built upon hurt and loss.  Getting to “love” through “hurt” is a process that takes time.
  2. Give it time.  Like seasons of the year, every step family will experience winter, spring, summer and fall seasons.  Holding on to the long view is the best things you can do.

Peter & Shannyn – Tuesday, September 15

Mike Weaver from Big Daddy Weave joins the show to talk about the new record Beautiful Offerings, & the latest single My Story.

Trooper Joe on Back-to-School Safety!

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Peter & Shannyn – Thursday, August 24

Talking life lessons this morning, & we stumbled upon this article about teaching your kids how to Deal With Rejection.


Respect Dare

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