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TODAY’S RESPECT DARE: Five different times in the book of Proverbs, the author alludes to a “nagging” or “quarrelsome” wife.  How are you doing in this area?  More importantly, how would your husband say you are doing?  Today’s dare is to ask him that question – “Am I quarrelsome.”  There’s only one rule: You can’t argue with him or justify your behavior.

TODAY’S LOVE DARE:  In John 17, Jesus prayed that the church would be “one, even as we are one.”  Unity, in the church and in marriage, is a hallmark of our God.  Oneness in marriage requires keeping each other on the same page.  Today’s dare is to isolate one area of division in your marriage and pray about it.  Ask God to reveal anything in your heart that threatens that oneness.  Then pray for good communication, with a heart toward unity.

Remember to tell us you’re taking the LOVE/RESPECT DARE by signing up for the 30 day challenge on our home page.

TODAY’S RESPECT DARE: Proverbs 11:22 says “Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion.”  Men tend to be more visual than women, which can lead to temptation.  So today’s Respect Dare ladies is to prayerfully spend 15 minutes going through your closet – and consider what your clothing is communicating and how it represents your husband and family.

TODAY’S LOVE DARE:  “Render service with a good attitude, as to the Lord and not to men.” ~ Ephesians 6:7.  You don’t have to be married too long before you realize that your mate doesn’t always motivate your love, but love that is lifted up as an offering to God never loses its anchor.  So before you see your spouse again, pray for them by name and for their needs.  Whether you feel like it or not, say “I Love You” and express love to them in some tangible way.

Remember to tell us you’re taking the LOVE/RESPECT DARE by signing up for the 30 day challenge on our home page.




Ingredients1 1/2 cups granulated white sugar
1 cup buttermilk
1/2 cup biscuit mix (recommended: Bisquick)
1/3 cup (5 1/3 tablespoons) butter, melted
1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
3 eggs


Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Grease a 9-inch pie pan.

Put all ingredients in a bowl and blend for 1 minute with a handheld electric mixer. Pour mixture into prepared pan. Bake for about 50 minutes or until a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean. Let cool.

Your Love Dare for today:  Take time to pray through your areas of responsibility and your areas of wrong doing. Where you have failed, ask for God’s forgiveness, then humble yourself enough to admit them to your spouse. Do it sincerely and truthfully. Ask your spouse for forgiveness as well. No matter how they respond, make sure you cover your responsibility in love.
Your Respect Dare:  Prayerfully consider your husband as the man he has become. Ask God to show you what positive characteristics have developed in him over the years and in writing, let him know what those characteristics are. Support each one with why it’s important to you.

Your Respect Dare for today: Write a list of the times the your husband has wronged you and burn it. Make a list of the times you’ve wronged your husband and ask him to forgive you for those times.

Your Love Dare for today:  Whatever you haven’t forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it go. Just as we ask Jesus to “forgive us our debts, we must ask Him to help us to “forgive our debtors” each day as well. Unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long. Say from your heart “I choose to forgive.”



Today, we talk about Acting to Defend OUR Marriages.

Here are some help from Dr. Randy Carlson’s book Starved For Affection:  PRAY: Lord, I ask that you help me during times of difficulty in my marriage to remember:

To stay focused on what truly matters.

To pray for my spouse.

That being the right person in more important than being right.

That having a relationship with another human being is a precious gift to be handles with love and respect.

That the greatest thing I can give to another person is the gift of myself-even with all my frailty and hurt.

That true forgiveness and reconciliation begins with me, and will spring from a humble spirit and a contrite heart.

That after I have given all I can to reconcile a broken relationship, I must trust you with the outcome and refuse to react bitterly or vengefully if I have to let that relationship go.


Your Love Dare for today: End it now. Identify any obsession or object of lust in your life and let it go. Expose any lie you’ve swallowed in pursuing forbidden pleasure and reject it. Lust cannot be allowed to live in a back closet. It must be killed and destroyed today. Focus on thanking God the He and what He provides can satisfy you and meet all your needs.


Your Respect Dare today:  Pray wholeheartedly that God shows you how this concept of allowing your husband to be CEO of your famiy impacts your marriage. Ask Him to help you be teachable and pray that you learn. Ask Him to give you and your husband a united