Consistent Joy with David Frey

The significance of taking time out with God

In an interview with Family Life Radio, singer and songwriter, David Frey with Sidewalk Prophets very candidly shared what God had placed on his heart. “Hands down for me,” David said, “is the word joy.”

David shared how much he enjoys C.S. Lewis’ literature. In his book, Surprised by Joy, Lewis wrote: “I call it Joy, which is here a technical term and must be sharply distinguished both from Happiness and Pleasure. Joy (in my sense) has indeed one characteristic, and one only, in common with them; the fact that anyone who has experienced it will want it again … I doubt whether anyone who has tasted it would ever, if both were in his power, exchange it for all the pleasures in the world. But then Joy is never in our power and Pleasure often is.”

David believes Lewis’ quote to be very telling because as Christ followers, we know that joy only comes from your relationship with God. “Happiness is wonderful,” David said, “but it doesn’t stick around. But there’s always joy – even in the midst of our worst day.”

You always have a reason to give God praise. It can look like:

  • A moment of peace on the most chaotic day.
  • Standing on a mountain top, singing.
  • Receiving comfort from a friend.
  • Remembering all God has done for you, especially when things look dark.

Regardless, His joy is always there for us.

“There’s a beauty in the stillness and the quiet,” David shared, “and it’s so scary to turn all the noises off.”

Sometimes God is just begging you to be quiet, to listen and to not make noise. David said, “The screen can be such a devastating destroyer of your time with the Lord. It clouds all the things He is trying to tell you.”

David shared, “When we named our band, the sidewalk portion was from a Jars of Clay song. It said, ‘Images on the sidewalk speak of dreams descent.’ And I imagined a man walking down the street. Right in front of him is what God wants him to see, but he’s so busy … so worried that he never sees. He walks right by it.”

So, what does a time out with God look like? Will Graham, grandson of the famous evangelist, Billy Graham said his public speaking grandfather rarely talked at home. “During the last few years of his life, as I sat with my grandfather, there was very little talk on either side,” Will shared in an excerpt from Redeemed. He said, “Words didn’t need to be spoken.” They sat quietly resting in one another’s presence.

Avoid distractions by becoming intentional with your time out with God.

When it comes to a time out with God, you have to be extremely intentional not to become distracted. Some of the ways to make your time quiet and productive is to plan your time.

  1. Leave your phone in another room, on silent mode.
  2. Bring your Bible, but only open it if the Lord gives you a Scripture to think about.
  3. Bring your journal to write down whatever comes to mind. And your mind will usually fill immediately with thoughts of all the things you could be doing instead of sitting in the presence of God.
  4. As thoughts of all the things you need to do come to mind, write them down and then set the list to the side.
  5. Refuse to get up and respond to the pull of any distraction. This is your quiet time.

Don’t be like the man David Frey described who was so busy or so worried that you walk right by the joy God wants you to experience.

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The Hardest Thing with David Frey

Forgiveness is vital to your future

“I’ll never forget the day we wrote the song, ‘Where Forgiveness Is,’” singer and songwriter, David Frey with Sidewalk Prophets shared when he sat down for a conversation with Family Life Radio. “I don’t think there’s any song more honest that we’ve ever written about how hard it is to forgive, and yet how essential it is to be able to move on, to grow and to thrive.”

David describes unforgiveness as a huge boulder sitting in your heart. As long as it sits there, you can never truly be free.

“I think forgiveness is the hardest thing you can do in life.”

David said he, Ben Mcdonald, Casey Brown and Parker Welling Nohe had some very hard conversations while writing the song. “Parker was open and honest with her lyrics, and we were open and honest right back,” David said. “We said everything we needed to say, and it’s still one of my favorites. It’s got a Tom Petty kind of feel, while at the same time it has a very challenging lyric that we hope people actually chew on and listen to.”

The song comes from the difficulty of forgiving others, David admits. “I’ve been slayed by circumstances and relationships. I was engaged to the wrong people. These things come up and rear their ugly heads, 20years later.”

“True forgiveness is giving it to the Lord,” David said. “It doesn’t mean you ever forget it. It always comes back in one way or another, but when true forgiveness is there, you can talk about it and help others through it. You can just find that freedom.”

It takes time and patience to let go of something and forgive.

Sometimes we can find it almost impossible to forgive right away. David believes the ability to forgive right away is a gift from God. A child of divorce, David and his family went to Disney. His father, mother and stepfather all stayed at the same hotel. David asked, “How insane is that?” But he added – “I love it; I want to live life like that!”

David continued, “Seeing [forgiveness] displayed the way I did, it’s knowing who we serve.” Jesus said “Father, forgive them. They don’t know what they’re doing” (Luke 23:34 GW).

Most of the time people don’t even realize the scope of what they’re doing to a human heart when they are the cause of the pain and heart break.

David believes he has experienced broken things so he could be free from them. Time and distance have allowed him to look back and say, “I never should have been in that spot.”

Sometimes the prayers you pray are out of a want. God hears you but doesn’t answer that prayer because in His wisdom and plan for your life, He knows you really don’t want to go down that path.

Let the words of the song, “Where Forgiveness Is” speak to your heart.

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A Walk through Fire with David Frey

Giving thanks in the difficult and tragic season

Singer and songwriter, David Frey with Sidewalk Prophets has experienced a lot of devastation in his life. When Family Life Radio asked if he could, would he go back and change any of it, he said, “Selfishly, I probably would, but I’m glad I can’t because I wouldn’t have learned what I know now. I wouldn’t appreciate the sacrifices my wife has made. I probably would have taken all of it for granted.”

David attributes the walk through the fire as the one thing that brought him to the place he is in right now. Even though no one knows what their future holds, David finds the mystery of it all to be a beautiful thing.

“Our entire album, The Things that Got Us Here, is all about trying to find those things that have brought you [to where you are now. We hope] to encourage you to give thanks to God for those things because it’s the story He’s given you.”

To be thankful in the face of tragedy or something exceedingly difficult isn’t easy.

Your circumstances in life don’t make you who you are.

“That’s something I wrestle with,” David admits. “I’ve seen a lot of tragedy in my life, but I wouldn’t be who I am today without the struggle.”

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David believes God always has a blessing in the tragedy or difficulties you encounter throughout your life’s journey. When you share your struggle with others and find that they are going through the same thing or something similar, you develop a kinship in the family of God. You recognize you’re going through it together and can often help each other.

David said, “I find myself wondering if I’m a good enough husband? Am I a good enough Dad? I think when you’re at your best as a dad, you still are wondering, Am I doing this right? Am I going to screw this kid up? And in the midst of that, you wonder, Can I provide for my family?”

You ask yourself, “Can I overcome all these things, and then you get you start going down this rabbit trail of, does anyone care?” and “Do I really deserve to be cared about?”

Help for Your Unbelief

In the middle of those horrible lies that that have been told to  you, you can find yourself doubting God or even become angry at Him for all of it. Have you ever wondered if He sees what you’re going through or just where He is in all of this?

David said, “Even at my strongest, my faith can be shattered in literally, a moment.”

David found his answer on how to deal with the lies he sometimes tells himself in Mark chapter 9. A man asked the disciples to drive out an evil spirit afflicting his son, but they couldn’t do it. An argument arose among the crowd, and Jesus asked what they were arguing about so the man told them. Then the father said to Jesus, “… if you can do anything, take pity on us and help us” (Mark 9:22 NIV).

To which Jesus replied, “If you can? Everything is possible for one who believes” (Mark 9:23 NIV).

“Immediately the boy’s father exclaimed, ‘I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!’” (Mark 9:24 NIV). And Jesus removed the demon and return the man’s son to him.

“The lyrics to the song, ‘I Believe Now,’” David said, “is really just a prayer.” (Experience the song here.)

If you struggle with thoughts like David mentioned, know that they are lies from the enemy. Go to the Father today and ask Him to help you with any doubt you have about who you are in Christ and your ability to live the life He’s purposed for you.

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