Finding Confidence when Parent-shaming Happens
Then children were brought to him that he might lay his hands on them and pray. The disciples rebuked the people, but Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.” And he laid his hands on them and went away.
─ Matthew 19:13-15 ESV
Darcie set her keys, purse and the baby, still in her car seat, down in one gentle move, letting go of her four-year-old, Mickey’s hand. She relaxed a bit as she watched her mother, Della, embrace her son. He’s always safe with her, she thought. And so am I.
“Are you okay?” Della asked, noticing her daughter’s slow exhale.
“Yeah!” she replied, trying to shake it off. “A woman shamed me at the grocery store when she saw that Mickey still wears diapers. I didn’t even explain this time. I just nodded and smiled. People have no idea what we’ve been through – what he’s been through.”
“Oh, honey! I’m so sorry. You’re right. It’s ugly and wrong and people should keep their noses out of others’ business and on their own faces.”
In our verse today, Jesus corrected His disciples because they perceived Jesus was too busy for the children. But Jesus said, let them come to me. He blessed them and in doing so, blessed their parents.
When others – friend, family or stranger – judge your parenting style, remember God’s opinion is the one that truly matters. Remain confident, knowing God knows you and knows the purposes He has for your child. Trust Him to lead you in what is best.
Children are gifts from God. And we should cherish and care for them as He leads us.
Today’s One Thing
If you are stressed by unwanted parental advice and unwelcomed opinions, remember you don’t have to parent alone. Pray daily, asking God for His patience, wisdom and perseverance to constantly be at work in you.