How to Find Contentment
Blessing Offor on Experiencing Joy in the Present
Singer-songwriter Blessing Offor shared a powerful lesson with us about contentment and the human tendency to always look for the next achievement. Even when our dreams are being realized, we can miss the joy if we’re not careful.
Blessing’s awareness of being present in the moment is something he’s learned along the way. “Right now in these moments. It’s like, God through my Pastor Phil Covert, through all these people, is teaching me really that even when your dreams are coming true, the human heart has an amazing ability to not be happy, to not be content, or to still just want more.” The human heart has a capacity to never be fully satisfied.
How often do we slow down to appreciate the present and find happiness where we are.
Two years ago, Blessing had dreams of reaching his current position, and now that he’s there, he has new goals. But he’s learned to embrace the present, understanding that the joy he is looking for isn’t in future accomplishments, but in appreciating where he is right now.
“I know that if I’m not happy now, all of those things won’t actually make me happy,” he said. He’s come to realize that the satisfaction we think will come from reaching the next milestone is fleeting. There’s always something else to achieve, and as he puts it, the “goalpost keeps moving.”
The key to contentment is no longer defining himself by his achievements. “It’s a healthier me now that can see the goalpost moving and know that it’s okay if the goalpost moves, so long as I’m not defining myself by the goalpost.” His new perspective allows Blessing to enjoy his journey, understanding that happiness doesn’t lie in what’s to come, but in appreciating the moments of today.
Happiness doesn’t depend on external achievements—it’s something we cultivate within ourselves.
“If you don’t find happiness right here, right now with me, then none of it matters,” he reflected. This understanding has been transformative for him, as he now focuses on being present and finding peace in each moment, rather than constantly looking to what’s next.
Blessing shared, “If you don’t like it now, if you don’t like you now, if you don’t like what you’re doing now, nothing anyone gives you will make you like it more.” His words challenge us to find contentment in our current circumstances, rather than believing that some future achievement will bring us lasting happiness.
Stop the Inner Critic
Blessing also touched on the internal struggle many of us face—the tendency to be overly hard on ourselves. We often create unrealistic expectations and lose sight of how far we’ve come. Blessing’s words serve as a reminder to appreciate who we are today, rather than constantly striving for who we think we need to be.
Contentment isn’t found in reaching a destination, but in appreciating each step along the way. For those of us who might feel pressured to constantly achieve more or who find ourselves waiting for the next big thing to bring happiness, Blessing encourages us to trust that God is with us in every moment and to find peace where we are.
May his insight invite you to stop looking ahead for fulfillment and instead learn to rest in the joy of the present.
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